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Stop Calling Me Fat, Facebook
by David Berkowitz, Thursday, July 10, 2008, 3:00 PM

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Have you ever felt insulted by overzealous ad targeting?

I've been hearing this come up more in conversation lately, often with people who aren't in the advertising or technology industries. One example was first mentioned to me by a female friend who saw an ad on the left side of Facebook that mentioned her age and suggested she was overweight (for the record: she's not). She was insulted enough that she actually had to close out of Facebook to escape the ad for a bit. You can see an example of the ad, courtesy of Jennifer Marshall. There's also a male version on my Flickr page, with the ad's photo only slightly less scary than Lou Ferrigno shirtless in the "Hulk" TV series.

I'm seeing mentions of ad insults on Twitter too. MediaPost's Just an Online Minute writer Kelly Samardak recently tweeted, "Must find new social network that won't tell me I'm old and fat..." Several others responded to my Twitter post where I sought their feedback. Alan Wolk chimed in, "Well [Facebook's] always asking me if I'm fat or bald." Jeff Larche must have gotten the Ferrigno ad or something like it, as he noted, "There's my experience -- a Facebook ad showing a washboard male stomach and chest. Headline: 'Male, 49, out of shape' Yow!" John Morton tweeted, "I've been seeing ads that use my age data in them recently," and shared a link to a screenshot of an ad soliciting survey respondents.

All of this may simply indicate that these ads are working. At the very least, these ads are getting noticed. That should help Facebook with its monetization issues, right?

Yet for the average consumer, this becomes a turnoff. When ads start calling out to people, especially women, "You're 30 and overweight," it's hard not to take it personally. Meanwhile, the advertisers who are currently getting noticed for these ads aren't big brands or the kinds of marketers consumers sometimes wouldn't mind hearing from. The weight loss ad targeting me not only told me "Ab exercises won't get you a cut body" so that I should actually exercise less (which is almost impossible for me to do), but it promises, "Burn fat and increase energy with ultra green tea." I'm definitely drinking the wrong brand.

My friend who inspired this column said Facebook isn't the only site giving her the willies. She noted reading a certain blog where the ads called out to her by name, something which advertisers have been able to do for years but haven't used much. In a sense, consumers don't realize how fortunate they are that most advertisers are more conservative than they can be online.

The problem on Facebook is that the rules with its Social Ads allow some advertisers to extend into that "creepy" territory all too easily, bringing negative attention to its whole platform and ruining the party for everyone else who tries to just run a solid campaign.

One of the strange lines that's blurring is that it's getting harder to tell what content's from an advertiser and what's from a friend. Ads and people are merging. It's not a new concept; when you see someone wearing a Nike T-shirt, are they using Nike, or is Nike using them? (Yes, both are generally true.) Yet when the ads act like people, such as by including recommendations from friends or becoming so personal that they make it sound like they really know you, the ads should be treated like people.

On Facebook, people can be blocked, befriended, or removed as friends. I've counted over 40 privacy controls on Facebook's dashboard, which is one of the most granular I've seen anywhere. With the ads growing more personal, even more controls are needed. A simple "block this ad" link or icon will help give users more power over their environment -- and with Facebook serving as a social dashboard for people to manage their connections, communications, events, photos, and other parts of their lives, those controls are essential.

What if this got out of hand and millions of Facebook users blocked every ad they saw? First of all, that should tell Facebook its ads aren't resonating. Meanwhile, Facebook already has a mechanism that can serve as a compromise. At the bottom of the News Feed, which serves as a registered user's homepage on Facebook, there's a link to "preferences" where you can choose to receive more or less information about select friends. I chose to get more information about my wife, and less about some people who are friends of sorts but with whom I share few common interests. You can only select 40 friends in each category. I don't know why that is; the limit hasn't changed since I first saw the feature some time ago, and yet active users like me keep increasing their friend totals, so the limit becomes continually more restrictive.

While I wish the feature would loosen up for controls for friends, the restriction could be perfect for advertisers: users would have a cap on how many advertisers they block. If too many users reached the limit, Facebook could then reevaluate its policies. Users would still complain, because people always complain even when they're generally happy; as Hobbes the tiger notes in the classic comic strip, "We're kind of stupid that way." Yet overall, for users who don't like what they see when they notice the ads, it will improve their experience, and it will help signal to advertisers when they're crossing the line. Then again, it could kindle a new debate: is it better to be blocked or ignored?
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14 comments on "Stop Calling Me Fat, Facebook"

  1. Brittany Richadson from Revenue Science
    commented on: July 15, 2008 at 5:22 PM
    I don't understand why people are upset with inaccurate ads if they know well enough that they aren't overweight and aren't (as Mr. Whittaker expressed) the opposite gender?

    Sure, some sites have better behaviorally-targeted ads, and some are a little off. I have received the ad that Mr. Berkowitz's friend got but, even though I am in marketing and should be more aware, I barely paid attention to it.

    They don't have my height-weight information and I doubt they go through every person's photos, make a judgement call, and place them into a segment. So at best, they are using a well-known ratio of overweight-to-fit people to determine whether such an ad would be relevant to the average Facebook user.

    Fact: most Facebook users are 13-24. Fact: 66% of Americans 20yrs+ and 17% of Americans 12-19 are overweight or obese.

    So I suggest that people don't take these types of ads so seriously--its simply statistics--and be patient while they work out their BT kinks.

  2. Amanda P from Ball State University
    commented on: July 11, 2008 at 2:17 PM
    Just to reiterate what has been posted already… Facebook needs to reconsider the advertisers they allow to post on their sites AND the way these ads are targeted at the users. As a 22 year old female, I get really tired of seeing the engagement, “tired of being fat at 22�, handbag and shoe advertisements. I realize this is an elementary attempt at targeting me by showing me what “any 22 year old female� would “want� to see, but they are failing miserably. The only relevant ad I have seen thus far was one for a blogging conference near my town, obviously targeted to me because I mention blogging as an interest in my profile.

  3. Bryce Whittaker from Mindshare Interactive Campaigns
    commented on: July 11, 2008 at 9:27 AM
    You think that's insulting, I swear the ad calling me fat was also calling me a woman!

  4. Michael Senno from New York University
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 6:58 PM
    If advertisers are going to use demographic information for target marketing, they should at least do it tactfully. Put aside the privacy issue for a second, do you think any of these advertisements will actually work? Given all the negativity, the fact that seem more insulting than attractive, the ads seem to turn everyone off. Correct me if I'm wrong, that defeats the whole purpose of advertising. Why are they even wasting their money with these ads?

  5. Andrew Burnette from Worldwatch Institute
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 4:13 PM
    While I haven't gotten the age/weight ads, I do wish that facebook advertisers would recognize that I'm not looking for male "companionship." It's clearly marked in my profile that I'm "seeking women"...so why can't the advertisers use that data to display photos of hot women instead. Am I asking too much?

  6. Eileen Livers from Self-employed
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 4:05 PM
    I, too, have noticed (and been offended by) the same age- and weight-targeted Facebook ad. Is that all marketers think a 40+ professional woman and mother of two is interested in? And do they really have to call me names ("fat") to get my attention? Is this third grade and are we on the kickball field?

  7. Bettina Sherick from 20th Century Fox International
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:54 PM
    I love Facebook as a tool to connect with my friends and colleagues, the the ads have been getting worse and worse. I'm at the point where I would pay a small monthly fee to have an ad-free FB experience. I already know that I'm 40 and single- and fine with it! Do I have to see happy "mature" couples everytime I log in? I too have also gotten my share of the "43 and fat?" ads.

    C'mon Facebook (and other socnet sites...)! Figure out your game, and get on with it.

  8. John Verdon from National Defence
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:33 PM
    David,

    thank you for this post. I am not an ad person, but my work involves 'environmental scanning' and lurking in the media world provides opportunity for insight.

    But I'm writing you and hopefully a larger community of media experts and influencers as a simple media consumer. And I have to tell you, the I (my family and pretty much everyone else I know) Hates Advertising as given to consumers of TV, Internet and Film.

    Even a great ad becomes intolerable the third time you see in a two minute advertising slot. But overwhelmingly advertising is not great or even good. In fact, in a conversation I had the other day with my 18 year old son we both came to the conclusion that they are overwhelmingly 'hysterical' - in the sense of a psychological diagnosis (generally given to women before feminism corrected this). The hysteria smacks of a line I was indoctrinated into during a summer job selling (not) vacuum cleaners - 'Buyers are liars', meaning that if a prospective buyer tells you they can't buy (afford) the vacuum they are lying and that you are doing them a favor to more aggressively sell them the vacuum.

    Advertising overwhelmingly is an assault to frighten or make insecure the viewer so that they will seek redemption or salvation in the particular product. Advertising is now all incantation to cast a spell on the viewer to buy or to feel 'cursed' for not buying.

    Advertising is an informational form of the aids virus - seeking to 'infect' the system of one's identity (biologically the immune system), appropriate the system (the personal identity of the host), for its own ends - regardless of the needs of the host individual.

    I don't know how many times I was watching TV with my young children when ads where filled with feminine hygene products, cleaning products and endless other commodities that seemed inappropriate to the age group the program was aimed at. The largest question that came to my mind was - how can this be a good use of advertiser money?

    Now don't get me wrong I often like advertising and seek it out when I'm interested in buying something. I used to by the local newspaper more for the advertising in it, then the news content (which I rarely trusted anyway).

    The one great thing about google is that the ads are small and are more likely to be related to what I'm interested in.

    Apologies if this is a complete rant, but I just don't get it. How do advertiser actually think they are building good brand through such an assault?

    john verdon - ottawa

  9. Michael Madden from The Weather Channel
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:31 PM
    And people wonder why our non-industry friends get so creeped-out by "big brother". Retargeting can also be a bit much. When you realize an advertiser is following you around on the web it really does become a bit annoying. Especially if you popped into a site quickly to check on something minor and how they think you can't live without them.

  10. Laurie Petersen from Minyanville Family Media
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:23 PM
    Thank you David. Last week, everytime I logged into my office computer I was greeted on AIM with the message: Welcome to Menopauseland. Since I share a room with a bunch of younger guys, it always makes for a chortle. And never mind the assumptions the ad targeting is making. What nimrod thought that ANYone would have an interest in a place called Menopauseland? This week, my demo has somehow changed to Hellboy II. Guess someone borrowed my computer while I wasn't looking!

  11. Carolyn Gardner from Sitebrand
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:21 PM
    Oops hit submit to fast! lol But here's the thing...this is an example of overpersonalizing an ad. Just because you know my age doesn't mean you have to use it in your messagin!! Smarten up marketing friends.

  12. Carolyn Hansen from Hacker Group
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:19 PM
    I love your last question! In a former life in non-profit work, it was clear to me that polarizing messages raised way more money than merely positive or problem-solving ones. The more complaints we got, the better the appeal (at least in terms of ROI). The line between relevant and obnoxious is a difficult one. But that's what makes our jobs fun.

  13. Carolyn Gardner from Sitebrand
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:19 PM
    OMG - I totally know what you're talking about. I was on facebook last night and it was the same thing. Messages referencing my age and weight loss solutions! Very offensive .... and quite creepy at the same time! Not to mention insulting.

  14. Roy Perry from Greater Media Philadelphia
    commented on: July 10, 2008 at 3:18 PM
    A stalker is a stalker, whether they stalk you for positive attributes like age, income or geography or for a disease you have or what you weigh. Some find it unpleasant right away, others after a while, others not at all. Just live your life as if you have no real privacy and there'll be no problems.

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