• by Stephanie Azzarone , Op-Ed Contributor, April 25, 2012

Candy and flower sellers, beware. What you offer is not what moms really want for Mother’s Day. 

To get a feel for what was really important on this special day, we polled 70 moms. The results offer some insight into how moms think.

Despite the fact that moms so often say they are overworked, totally stressed and desperately in need of time for themselves, Mother’s Day is clearly not the day they want to take it. Fifty moms said they wanted to spend that time with their families rather than on their own. When it came to how to spend that family time, 50% more moms preferred “just hanging out at home” (30 moms) to “brunch” (20 moms) as their favorite Mother’s Day activity. Only a few opted for movies or shopping. Other plans for the day included walks on the beach, going to the park, cookouts, picnics and short trips.

Moms who preferred to spend time alone opted 2:1 for “doing something just for me” over “doing nothing but relaxing.” For moms who wanted to do something special for themselves, pampering was the name of the game: 22 opted for massages, just edging out manicures and pedicures. When asked what Mother’s Day gifts they would most like to receive, moms chose “help around the house” far more frequently than the alternatives: brunch, dinner, flowers or jewelry.

Not a single mom wanted to spend the day “catching up” or “with friends.” Interestingly, only two said they wanted to spend the day with their own moms.

Yet when queried about which moms inspired them most, 44 cited their own moms, while most others mentioned other family members and even friends. Celebrity moms – Hillary Clinton, Ann Romney, Michelle Obama and Angelina Jolie -- received a total of 16 votes. Obama led the pack, while Clinton and Jolie each received one vote. No votes here for Romney – but with five sons of her own, she won’t exactly be lacking for attention on Mother’s Day.