I quit Facebook the other day.
People ask me a shocked, Ã¢â‚¬Â Why!?Ã¢â‚¬Â and I tell them it was just one more thing to monitor and there was a little bit of drama that came with it. I realized that I had too many accounts online for communication.
I took a look at the list and Facebook seemed to be the most expendable to me. I liked being able to keep in touch with so many people and being informed, but I didnÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t like how everyone is in everyone elseÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s business. Some people like that kind of social atmosphere, but IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m not really one of those kinds of people.
And donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t get me wrong, I think everyone can appreciate the aspect of Facebook that gives everyone an easy transition out of an awkward moment when bumping into someone you havenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t seen since high school, and having a chit-chat conversation, and then the comment from them (or you): Ã¢â‚¬Å“We should catch up sometime.Ã¢â‚¬Â And knowing you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t really want to swap numbers, but you donÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t want to leave them hanging, and so you bring out the, Ã¢â‚¬Å“Yeah! Facebook me!Ã¢â‚¬Â...and itÃ¢â‚¬â„¢s done. Thank you, Facebook.
But, even though I
lost a few hundred Ã¢â‚¬Å“friendsÃ¢â‚¬Â I still opted out. The funny part was that when I clicked to terminate my account, a page came up that asked why. There were about 10 choices you could click
on that were, I guess, common reasons why people quit Facebook. So, I started clicking and as I clicked each choice, there was a bubble of text that had a solution. One of the choices was Ã¢â‚¬Å“too
much dramaÃ¢â‚¬Â. I thought that was funny, and then when I clicked on it, it gave me all kinds of pointers as to how to try again and avoid drama as much as possible. Then it finally lets you quit,
but invites you back as soon as possible, which is nice. I havenÃ¢â‚¬â„¢t suffered any withdrawal, just a few friends that are disappointed in me and think IÃ¢â‚¬â„¢m crazy.
Gone are the days when you lost track of people, both those you mill miss and those you are relieved to leave behind--Facebook and other sites like it have almost eradicated this option for the young adults of today...
As a parent I can use facebookas a way of learning more about my kids--at least my college-aged one. My older daughter has removed me from her friends list because of "inappropriate" comments that her "friends" make and she doesn't want me to "be exposed to"---- how thoughtful. But then again, she is a young woman on her own and my job there is pretty much done, as is my influence.
But I think it is brave of you to leave these networks behind. Say goodbye to those who you don't really care to be in touch with and pick up the phone or send emails to the rest. Or maybe meet face-to-face--what a concept!
And, in our online age, there will always be a way to rediscover those you miss as well as those you don't.