• by Gord Hotchkiss , Featured Contributor, 4 hours ago

It may be the most polite social network in the world. It’s Hey.Cafe -- a Facebook alternative built by Canadians for Canadians.

I first heard about Hey.Cafe through a Reel on Facebook (oh, the irony) from Tod Maffin, a former CBC radio host, author and podcaster. Prompted by the not-so-veiled threats coming from south of the border, Tod’s been on a “buy Canadian” campaign for several months now and that has recently extended to Canadian alternatives for the big social media platforms. It was Tod that suggested to every Canadian listening (currently about 10 million a week, according to Tod’s website) that we check out Hey.Cafe.

So, I did. It turned out that, Anthony Lee, the creator of Hey.Cafe, lives about an hour down the highway from me, here in the heart of beautiful British Columbia. So I reached out and we had a chat -- a nice, polite Canadian chat. Because that’s how we do things up here.

The first thing I learned, which was a surprise, is that Hey.Cafe is not new. In fact, it’s been around since 2001. That means there was a version of Hey.Cafe before there was ever a Facebook (which started in 2004). In addition to running a tech support company out of Penticton, British Columbia, Lee has been developing alternatives to the major social media platforms for the better part of three decades now, “Whenever I thought, ‘Oh, I think I have an idea,’ I’d make some changes, that kind of stuff. But it definitely wasn't a sit down and work on it all day thing, unless I had some time free that I was just like, ‘Yeah, I'll spend this week working on stuff.’”

Then I asked the obvious question, “Why now? Why is Hey.Cafe suddenly gaining attention?”

There is the “buy Canadian” thing, of course. But Lee said it’s more than just Canadians being fed up with an American president and his bluster. We’re also fed up with social media founders that have their noses firmly pressed up against said President’s posterior simply because it’s good for business.

And let’s not even get into the simmering cesspool every major social media platform has become, driven by an ad-obsessed business model that monetizes eyeballs at the expense of ethics. Lee concurred, “It's all about algorithm for them. They don't care if it's someone you follow or not. If, if it looks like it's gonna make some attention, whether it be good or bad, they're gonna push it in the feed.”

So, are Canadians kicking Hey.Cafes tires like a rink-side Zamboni? Yes, finally. Thanks to the plug from Tod Maffin, users shot up from about 5,000 to over 40,000 in two weeks. And it’s still growing. Because it’s still a side-of-the-desk project, Lee had to cap new accounts at 250 an hour.

Now, those numbers are infinitesimal compared to any of the major platforms, but they do signal a willingness by Canadians to try something not tied to business practices we don’t agree with. At the same time, it does bring up the elephant in the room for anyone going up against Facebook or any of the big platforms -- the curse of Metcalfe’s Law. Metcalfe’s Law, named after Ethernet pioneer Robert Metcalfe, says that the value of a network is proportional to the square of the number of connected users. Having a telephone isn’t much use if no one else has one. For networks, bigger = better. And Facebook is currently 75,000 times bigger than Hey.Cafe.

Given that, does Hey.Cafe stand a chance? I hope so. I supported it with a one-year subscription because I would love to see Lee’s side project survive and, hopefully, succeed. I did go on and post a few things. I even started a new “café”: Hey.Cafe’s version of a Facebook Group. So far, nothing much has happened there, but we’ll politely wait and see. Again, that’s how we do things up here.

What I did find, however, is a community that seems politely, genuinely happy to be there. And not all of them are Canadian. This was a post from a nurse newly arrived from the U.S.: “Newly landed nurse practitioner from Oregon via Boston (long story). Love the concept of no ads and AI. Now to find some other communities, Bernese Mountain Dogs and skiing!”

I did ask Lee, given the audience MediaPost reaches, if there’s any message he’d like to pass on. For media buyers especially, he offered this: “Whether it be HeyCafe, Bluesky, Mastodon, [consider] using more services that aren't the big three players. Use more stuff that puts you in the spotlight of communities that are all over the place.”

While he would love for Hey.Cafe to be economically sustainable, maybe the takeaway here is not so much about financial success. Maybe these are Canadians signalling a change in our attitude. It’s as if we’ve been in an abusive relationship with Facebook for years but have put up with it because it’s been too hard to leave.

However, at some point in abusive relationships, there comes a red line which, when crossed, you begin planning your exit. It doesn’t happen immediately. It may not happen at all, but there is a significant mental shift that happens where you become aware of how toxic the relationship really is and you start planning a life free from that toxicity.

For 40,000 Canadians and wannabe Canadians -- at least -- that switch may have happened.